How to Strengthen the Connection with Your Child

"How to Strengthen the Connection with Your Child"As parents, many of us fear that having genuine, warm relationships with our children may compromise our capacity to be the authority and the one in charge. Our children grow and change with the speed of light. Today your son is only 18 months old but before you know it he will be already 18 years old young self-confident adult. Consider the following simple was to grow and strengthen the special connection with your child as they grow from 18 months to 18 years:

Look into your child’s eyes

The first step to strengthening the connection with your child is to get down on your knees and meet their eyes. This is not merely establishing an eye contact, but so much more. It is the ultimate expression of giving 100 % of your attention to your child and being fully present in the moment. Children are masters of living and being in the moment. Our eyes offer the most honest expression of our intentions, our love, respect and care for the child. Our eyes are the silent voice that has the power of instant connection and understanding. It is said that the eyes are the windows to one’s soul. Allow yourself to see the world through the eyes of your child!

Listen to your child

Always express genuine interest and listen carefully to what your child has to say. When they need an answer, ask them: “what do you think?” and you will hear how they think and see who they really are. Listening opens up the channels for communication and trust. In the silence of your own voice you will clearly see and recognize your child’s needs. When a child sees that you are giving them your full attention they will feel understood and safe. They will trust you and allow you to stay close to them even during the sometimes really tough teenage years. You have a chance to be their best friend.

Let your child make mistakes

The truth is that we all make mistakes. Many of your child’s mistakes will correct themselves as time goes on, others the child will correct through experience and growth! Allow your child to make mistakes and show them how to cultivate a friendly feeling towards mistakes. Have the courage and integrity to admit your own mistakes in front of your child. Your radical honesty will empower your child to trust you and to trust themselves, you will show them how to take responsibility, but this will also stir a feeling of compassion for you in their hearts. Mistakes can connect us on a deeper level and bring us closer.

Embrace your child’s challenges

We all wish for our children to live a happy life of ease. Allowing our children to face daily challenges and encouraging them to tackle the challenges shows that we trust them to find a way and a solution! It is in the overcoming of a challenge that a child learns to be perseverant, creative. And slowly but surely they grow independent and self-confident.

“Children are human beings to whom respect is due, superior to us by reason of their innocence and of the greater possibilities of their future.” ~ Maria Montessori

Silvia Smith
She is a passionate advocate of Montessori Education and the founder of Bluebonnet Montessori School of Lakeway.

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