It takes a great architect to conceal a great design beyond a passionate story. This is the story of the universe as much as it is the story of Fifty shades of Grey. The trilogy has sparked the literacy world with controversial viewpoints on what the book portrays and how it challenges the moral of the American people and shake the foundation of true morality. Indeed, 50 shades of Grey is nothing more than the blueprint of a sacred Love story embroidered with extreme sensuality & expressed with consummate passion.
The reading of such a book requires special human qualities such as an open-mind, a sense of non-judgement and the desire to challenge the boundaries, given by outside limited beliefs, without condemning them but more so as a way to define our own sets of boundary.
Those who have stayed at the surface of the book may have like it or hate it as the story remains a story. People may have felt shocked, challenged, pleased, horrified, disgusted or else… These only reflect the states of being in which the book mirrors its Truth to the reader.
Those, like me, whose Life is dedicated to feeling and understanding the greater design, have read 50 shades of Grey from a very different perspective: The symbology perspective. It takes a trained mind to dive into an erotic story, written with sensual and passionate intent and still read beyond the words.
50 shades of Grey is not a book written to belittle humanity, women or sexuality. Indeed, it is a book that reveals how true Love can bring two strangers to learn trust and from this trust to grow stronger. It is a story of two polarities that mirror each other’s darkness so that they can reveal their own light. It is a story of a tortured mind, ready to heal and a beautiful Soul ready to dance.
50 shades of Grey gives a glimpse into the world of compromise from and with Love. It depicts the daring journey of two consented adults who, through the discovery of their own boundaries, free the other from fear, judgments, feelings of unworthiness and emotional self-sabotage.
50 shades of Grey shares the crossing path of two souls who have agreed on experiencing Love through their strength as much as their vulnerability without ever judging one another on their motives. More so, they accepted the other, with his/her past and the incompletion of his/her life. The unfolding journey of Christian and Ana is nothing more than a cross-path of destinies that unveils how, with Love, two human beings with different background, life understandings, experiences and visions can, actually, come together as one strong united togetherness to erase the fundamental differences that appear to exist and meet within the core that forever stands.
50 shades of Grey gives me hope about people, the world and Life in general, by reminding me, beyond all odds that although, nothing is perfect to begin with and all seems like a sin for everyone, everything can find a way to co-exist in peace, Love and respect.
To all of those who have criticized, pointed out, denounced with disgust or hated what this book was about, I invite you to read it all over again from another perspective and with a heart more widely open than your first try. You may not like it, but somewhere, you must find the strength to give yourself permission to read through the story that appears to be told and find the meaning that is there to be truly understood.
On the last, yet not the least note… All of you whose eyes are quick to judge, I also invite you to look within your own self and find which dark side, this book vibrates so subconsciously within you, that the first ever reaction you find is only rejection!
Whoever is without Love does not know god for God is Love. ~John 4.8
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I have read the 50 Shades of Grey series with great interest and was annoyed with it.
First of all: The writing is repetitive- by the 30st intercourse description I felt like I need to skip pages in order to be able finish the book. I did so however, because I had a genuine interest in how the characters would unveil and evolve.
I must say, as a European, the BDSM references didn’t really push any trigger in me. I have seen and heard worse. ;) If anything, I was disappointed how female sexuality was described (again). Yes dear author, please keep on telling young girls that orgasms fall from the sky when the right man approaches – and please keep on neglecting how important it is for women to find a connection to their own body first in order to be ready to let go infront of a man. We may hear in all detail how an anal plug is installed in the third book – but we never read anything about female ejaculation or the natural sounds that come with sex and how someone who is a ‘beginner’ and has no idea about all of this is usually intimidated by it. What a disappointment for a novel that is described as the kinkiest piece of literature in years.
Also, as someone with a genuine interest and education in psychology, I found this book to be misleading. As much as I am against demonizing people that are highly traumatized such a Christian Grey – I find the character description flawed and superficial. His controll issues come across rather patronizing and caring even charming, if you will. I think, any woman who has ever had the questionable luck to be dating a controlling man will confirm that the darker sides these men exhibit from time to time are a grave deal more severe and frightening.
Christian Grey is the hero of the story, the knight in shining armour that is saved by the innocence of a college girl Anastasia Steele. If people are aware of the fact that this is a fairy tale story, then fine. But what’s with all the young girls who actually fall for this story? I am talking about the ones who might- as I type this out right now – put up with a lot of crap because they hope that if they only ever truely love their partner just like Anastasia Steele does – their personal fairytale will come true and the controll freak will change eventually. Do you really believe that this is a responsible message to send out to young women? I have issues with that.
Love itself has many definitions but I think, that someone with a
huge amount of self loathing and ego issues like Christian Grey is
described -will realistically seen- most likely not possess the toolset (neither in his character nor in his
awareness level) to “love” another person as spiritually as you describe
it in your book review.
Healing in trauma is – as I have learned- a complex process. In real life it takes years and years and years. It includes a great deal of courage, introspection and a body that needs to be ready for taking the next step. It includes that a person learns to deal with the own darkness- accepts it and can control it to a certain level. However, the damage done in earlier years will never vanish completely. Unconditional love can not heal it or make it go away. It might undoubtably be an insightful experience that may catalyze many epiphanies but there is an equally great chance that the person might not be ready for that at this point and is overstrained. Bottom line is: There are no guaranties and I find it morally questionable to create the impression and mislead young women into thinking that they should do so to prove the point instead of walking away and being self loving to themselves. (which has a lot more to do with spiritual love than staying with a disrespectful control freak btw.)
I wonder what Katie Holmes thinks of the series.
I have too hard a time getting past the fact of it being a reworked Twilight fanfic to devote the time to read it. Hearing the ultimate conclusion of the story from family members who did read it did not raise my opinion of it.
In the real world Doms do not think of themselves as damaged and are not doing what they do in search of healing. They have a need and they are fulfilling it, just as their partners have a need.
I wonder, Aline, how you would feel about the “message” of this series if it was Ana who was “saved” in the end by a conversion into someone who craved abuse, punishment, control, and discipline to the point that she was happily freed from the pain of ever having to make her own decisions?
Christian is “saved” in the end because this is ultimately just another rendition of Beauty and the Beast and an ending where Beauty becomes a beast is not a commercial ending.
I’m afraid that the hidden meaning that you are reading into this story is only an intentional one insofar as the author’s publisher felt it necessary to make a plot that would sell books.
I agree with Nini, that the fairy tale message of this story, that the Beast will become a Prince if a woman is just patient and loving enough is a dangerous message to be sending out.
In real life, the Beast is almost always quite happy with his bestiality and “healing” is the furthest thing from his mind.
Hi Scott!
Thank you, as well, for taking the time to read my perception and give some of your time to share yours. It may seem very unique, to you, but in this book, I actually felt that, both, Christian and Ana were, taking turns in being the beast through different ways. One may see the physical or mental control that Christian exerces as “ugly” as much as I see the spiritual lack of Ana’s self-trust and soul’s connection as ugly. There is no ultimate winner nor free soul. I do not feel that anyone was saved as there is nothing to be saved from anything. There are experiences to go through and learn about the self. To me, Salvation is such a “fairy-Tale” concept that misleads those who need to do something to get something. The Kingdom is not offered because one becomes prince, princess, King or Queen. It is remembered because one realized more about who he or she is. In this book, what I, personally read, was the journey of self-discovery of two human being willing to dance so that they individually learn about their own self. As a fiction, I, reader, am aware of the potential for the over-the-top write-up for selling purpose… As a human being, I simply placed myself, with an open-heart and looked deeper about myself. This book, like every book I have read, has triggered some chords inside of me that made me seek more about my own self. In this, I felt that passing through the story of good, bad, winner, loser, victim, perpetrator and so on was worth my time.
I wish you a beautiful day, Scott! let me know if you’ll read it.. either way.. keep rocking! :-)
Hi Nini,
Thank you so much for your read and your perspective on the book and sharing how it has defined you! Many of your points are very relevant to me too, being a european as well.. Like any book, when a story is read only by attaching to the words, readers may sometimes miss the greater picture and yet, there is a truth on every levels of awareness. Whatever we are ready to learn, we are ready to see. The way I perceive it and feel it is that there is no victim, no perpetrator. Life simply is and we define ourselves through the game we play and the “roles” we accept to play. Everyone misleads everyone, in some way, as one’s reality is real only for the one who lives it. I agree with you, Love can never be something that another teach you, it must be something you feel and grow within you. Yet, when our lack of awareness is too great, we must find partners, friends, “enemies” as our “masters” to reveal it to us. When we are ready to learn, the lesson is brought. Learning the wisdom within the lesson is the real challenge.
I would disagree with your view about the improbability of an ego-maniac who isn’t equip with a “toolset” as I have myself met a few.
Life experiences are so different and Love has so many facets (at least 7 billions as for now) that I feel that this book is bringing many of them to mirror many of us.
I truly enjoy reading your view, Nini, as I love your Twitter stream! :-) Have a great end of your day! :-)
I don’t think that 50 Shades of Grey is a good example for what you are trying to make a point with. I am sorry- it’s badly written and the characters that are drawn in the story are flat and resemble more the fantasies of a 16 year old than of a woman who has lived a full life and knows her way around. After all, the books is about a 27 year old billionaire, who speaks several languages fluently, plays piano like a champ and also is a well trained pilot. A character, who rules an imperium whilest fighting world hunger in his spare time. And all of that without ever blinking with an eye or actually moving a finger. I would be very surprised if there was anyone around thinking of that as realistic.
It’s a fan fiction story that lacks insight into what it means to be human. I don’t judge people who enjoyed reading it- as it has many entertaining parts, but I would rather leave it at what it is: A fairy tale fantasy. Nothing more.
As for awareness and how love can transform people – there are better books and movies around who manage to avoid reverting to simplified stereotypes and give the subject matter the diversified perspective it deserves.
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