What Kind Of A Lover Are You?

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"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

The dearest experience through which a human being can go, is to love and be loved. While relationships vary from one human being to another for many different reasons, here are five categories that may give you some insights on the kind of Lover you are. Remember that each day is different and while in the same relationship for a while, you may experience different stages in your love depending upon the mood, emotions and mental state in which you are.

I invite you to take a closer look at your own behavior through the descriptions of these five categories and consider your need within your relationship so that you may have a conscious way to read just your behaviors and truly let your relationship blossom in harmony.

The Giver

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

You are a giver by excellence. You understand that Love is about giving and you find more joy in giving than in holding back or even receiving. Your relationship is healthy as long as the gift is born from a true space of unconditionality and a detachment from anything in return.

Observe if your behavior is based on a need for validation or recognition for your presence. When it is the case, then you come from your “giver” role to a “Needy” one and the relationship can easily shifts into disharmony out of lack of self-Love, self-confidence and Self-worthiness.

The Supporter

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

You have a supporting attribute that contributes to the strength of the relationship. Supporting another by inspiring and encouraging projects or dreams are remarkable attributes of the Lover and must be part of the “Lover’s Toolbox”. While the supporter is an essential part of the Lover, become aware of the nature of the support you offer. if the support enters a phase of compromising your own Truth to give “right” or “room” to the other, then your caring role comes out of an external need to compensate an internal lack. Remain aware of the intent and motive for your support and never be afraid of sharing your Truth whether you are judged as unsupportive.

The Spiritual

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

You are the Lover whose vision of a couple is founded ons aspirations for a deep meaningful relationship. Silence is one of your tool as well as introspection and communication. You tend to seek for the source of what you experience as the ultimate space for connection with your partner. While this is the most soulful relationship, beware of the bringing too much of the ethereality of this behavior and losing ground on living the moment down here in this physical reality. Too much introspection and reflection can become symptoms of isolation and create, in long-term, a lack of density and ultimately, a physical disconnection.

The Challenger

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

You are the one whose Truth is know to the Self and whose presence is a constant challenge for the other. When Presence is founded on Love, the challenger becomes the perfect partner for the couple to grow. The key, for the challenger-Lover is to remain anchored in the Love. You must stand as a kind mirror and avoid falling into the trap of becoming a wall without receptivity. A door that stands before another as an impassible space, rigid and inflexible, never ready to open. The Strength of the Challenger-Lover comes from the knowingness of his/her Truth, not from resistance and systematic contradiction.

The Romantic

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

You are the Dreamer-Lover. The one who feels and can amplify the feeling that Love brings. You give a butterfly feeling and a heart beat some density. You are the poet, the risk-taker, the creative one. While, love inspires you more than anything and fuels your passion for the moment, be careful not to let it consume you. The romantic tends to easily lose track of the reality by bringing the cinderella story. The reality is that, in a relationship, Cinderella and the Prince must co-exist, grow and remain friends beyond the fact that the shoe fits. To be a romantic-Lover is to empower your emotions with their Truth and give them a voice in time to time. Remain vigilant that while these moments create true memories, others denser must be created out of chaos and challenges.

There is, indeed, more than one Lover within all of us. Circumstances will, most of the time, determine which lover must come out to handle the situation the best. Trust that your inner-guidance is always showing you the best way to handle your relationship. After all, Life is nothing more than an experience of interconnectedness and remembrance.

"What Kind Of A Lover Are You?"

Aline Hanle

Aline Hanle

She helps you harness the power of the mind through the Infinite Greatness that lies in your heart. Her blog Modern Mystic contains many soulful inspirations.

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