There are still a lot of serial worriers out there despite the fact that there are so many new ways we have to stem their worries. From electronic calendars to virtual PBX services, there seems to be almost no excuse for needless worrying yet a lot of people still do it. Worrying leads to stress, and stress leads to ill health. Here are a few ways to worry less and hopefully stop worrying – unless absolutely necessary.
Expect the worst
When faced with a certain situation, envision the absolute worst. Once you have that picture in your head, realize that the chances of it happening are slim to nil. With a worst case scenario already in mind, you are going to much more prepared for anything else that may come your way.
Worrying accomplishes nothing
The Dalai Lama once said “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” If you are faced with a problem, you should be spending more time thinking of ways to remedy it and less time worrying about it. There are very few people who can think logically when worried, which leaves your problem-solving skills lacking when you are in a state of worry.
Tackle the problem and not worry about it
Instead of coming up with multiple what-if scenarios, take your life’s reigns and control the problem at hand. Instead of wondering about what other things could go wrong, try nipping it in the bud.
Use positive reinforcement as motivation
Nobody likes accomplishing things just because of the worry associated with not doing them. This makes the process unpleasant and causes stress. Instead, you should reward yourself for solving a problem so that your intentions are geared towards something enjoyable.
Always remember that it will not be the end of the world
Worry is caused by thinking of the negative consequences of an act or its omission but you must remember that the earth will still keep turning even if you make mistakes. You are bound to have the skills needed to manage the problem and you can use them to alleviate any more problems that you may encounter.
Stop worrying about the future
The future is something that should be looked forward to and not dreaded. If you focus your thoughts on what will be, you are going to miss a lot of what already is.
Remember: “Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” –John Lennon
Most of the things you worry about are bound to never happen
Mark Twain said it best: “Ninety-eight percent of what I worried about never happened.” You should keep track of the things you worry about and compare it with the things that come to fruition. You will be pleased to find that majority of them do not ever materialize, wasting your efforts on worrying about them
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