You feel nervous and wrought with anxiety. You feel a major sense of insecurity, that you aren’t achieving your full potential. Self-doubt, fear, lack of confidence and self-esteem are your enemies as they prevent you to getting what you want in life.
As a result, you feel totally shy when meeting new people. You don’t perform well on stage. You feel like everyone in the world is judging you.
Does this sound like your life?
You keep caring about what others think of you
The frustrating thing is, there is this major conflict inside of you. You KNOW the answer to all your problems…
And that is to get over thinking about what others are think of you.
But unfortunately, this is a lot easier said than done. It’s a common problem among many people.
Here’s a list of 5 tips I came up with to help you get over caring about what others think of you so you can live up to your full potential.
1). Does it matter next time?
Look ahead into the future, because whatever you’re feeling now isn’t going to matter next time.
It’s that simple.
Simply look back in your life now and ask yourself if whatever embarrassing moment you had back in high school, or when people laughing at you.
It may have felt bad back then, but not anymore.
So if time can heal the wounds, why not skip ahead by not caring about what others think?
Don’t wait to let time heal. Make the effort instead to be free.
2). Your friends probably have it worse
When you care about what others think of you, you’re focusing a lot of negative energy on yourself, so much so you start to think the world is against you.
That’s not true.
Caring about what others think is something a lot of people deal with in life.
In fact, you probably don’t see it, but your friends may have a hard time dealing with this too.
So remember, you aren’t alone. Just relax and slowly deal with it.
3). Realize that life is short
It is. I’m not saying you will die tomorrow and that you should lead a fearful life, but life is unpredictable.
You never know what will happen in the future.
Do you think people who were suddenly struck with cancer or elder folks who’ve lived their life wish they could’ve always done something different?
So what better way to start living, but being in the present with your whole self, by not caring about what others think?
4). People don’t really care about you
They don’t. You’re pretty much your own harshest critic.
Because you’re worried about what others think of you and how they judge you, you may be exaggerating everything in your head.
Now, have you ever stop to think that others don’t really care about you? They’ve their own lives to lead. They’re more worried about their own issues and agenda!
If they aren’t caring about you, why do you want to waste your energy caring about what they think then?
5). Just relax, and have fun
With all that has been said and written, the underlying message is to simply:
Relax, and have fun with life.
Relax, take a breather and realize that caring excessively about what others think isn’t going to help you at all.
Then have fun with it.
When you aim to have fun you will learn to take things lightly and be more worry-free.
Your life is made of your own feelings and thoughts to create your own experience, so don’t base it off on others’ instead.
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